It’s Not Just White People – #BlackLivesMatter

#BlackLivesMatter Photo by frankie cordoba on Unsplash
#BlackLivesMatter Photo by frankie cordoba on Unsplash

One of the biggest misconceptions is that only Caucasian people are racist towards black people, and other people of colour avoid discriminating against black people. Unfortunately, that is far from the truth.

As a brown man of Indian descendant, I have experienced my share of racism. But nothing to the extremism of black people. Brown people often avoid being persecuted as we are perceived in a certain manner. Society often considers us as individuals in prominent positions such as doctors, engineers, and accountants, or gas station attendants, and call center workers. The non-threatening portrayal of brown people in the media as the “thank you, come again” folks, save us from many violent encounters.

Growing up in an Indian family, I have seen racism towards dark-skinned people, especially the African descendants. A myth in the culture that dark-skinned African descendants are violent, aggressive, and not educated. I have met individuals among family, extended family, and friends that have a negative attitude towards the black community. Here are some questions/statements I have encountered from South Asian folks in my life and during my travel in India:

1, “Are all black people murderers, rapists, thieves, and violent in nature?” A question by someone regarded as a highly educated individual in India.

2, “Since you are probably not going to marry within our culture, at least don’t marry a black person.” A remark made by extended family towards my sister and I, when discussing marriage.

3, “It’s probably a black person.” An automatic conclusion about a robbery that occurred at a family friend’s house in Canada. She did not see the thief.

4, “I don’t want my daughter to take up scholarship from the USA since there are many ‘negros’ there…” a statement from an aunty when her daughter received a sports scholarship in the US.

I can’t completely blame these folks, as they were raised in a hateful upbringing that blamed all negative incidents on black and dark-skinned people; they weren’t privileged like me. The privilege of growing up in a diverse country like Canada. The privilege of having met, interacted, and acquainted with people of different races and cultures. The privilege of having black friends, the best friends, and individuals considered to be family. This privilege allowed me to understand black people and their struggles. I can only sympathize with them as my lighter skin tone and Indian features protected me from some negative biases, stereotypes, and violent encounters.

Brown privilege is often unchecked. Not that we are safe from racism or racist attacks, but we avoid being brutalized by society on a daily basis. We often avoid being targeted and assaulted by police. We often avoid being spied on when we shop, walk, or do any chores. Mind you the keyword here is “often,” as I am comparing those discriminations to black people, and by no means am I trying to say there aren’t any racial tensions towards brown people.

Brown people are not the only race that is racist towards black people. Including black people, other people of colour such as Latinos and Asians discriminate against them. I have witnessed, and read articles about, cultural hatred towards the black community. The most recent examples consist of a Latino gang joining police in attacking peaceful black protesters, and the discrimination of black people in China during the Covid-19 pandemic.

The focus of this article is on the brown community as I am a product of this ethnicity and since birth, have witnessed negative sentiments towards the black community. From individual interactions to Indian media, the negative portrayal of dark-skinned Africans is common.

Other races, including white people, have experienced some kind of racism. However, the one group that suffers under all race are the black people. That is why it is important to understand the Black Lives Matter movement instead of suppressing it with “All Lives Matter” narrative. Until black lives get the humane treatment, respect, equality, and justice, we can never have “All Lives Matter” justification.

Please visit blacklivesmatter.com/ to learn more about the movement and see what you can do to support and help the black community.

***For the sake of this topic, I am referring to South Asian brown people, particularly Indians. The discrimination is strictly regarding race and not in any way referring to religious discrimination. This article also doesn’t take into account clothing and facial features that automatically discriminates various groups of individuals***

#BlackLivesMatter Photo by Max Bender on Unsplash



From Settled To A Nomad; A Unique Outlook Of A Backpacker

“You won’t last 6 months,” and “You’ll be back in a week.”

Two statements I constantly heard when deciding to embark on my solo trip to India for 6 months.

At 22 years old and a recent University graduate, hungry for a meaningful experience, the world was my oyster. I decided to explore not just any country but India, my motherland; I was intent on discovering my roots. As an Indo-Canadian born in UAE the faint memories I have of India consist of visiting extended family in the state of Kerala for 2 weeks every 5 years. Terrified of what could await me, I put on a brave face and boarded the flight to Mumbai. I was determined to thrive in a world that was foreign to me and silence the doubters.

Despite not speaking an ounce of Hindi, I connected with the locals through their food, culture, and humanity. In the past, I was often blinded by the negative aspects portrayed of India by the media. The narrative changed once I gave India a chance. Being hosted by various families, sharing their stories, food, and ‘mittai’, I started feeling a sense of kinship with the natives of the land. Immersing myself by traveling in crowded buses and trains, eating diverse street delicacies – Delhi Belly being part of the experience – I slowly began to integrate into the local lifestyle. Being the only person on both sides of my family to see India on a larger scale, it was a life-changing experience. I proudly survived the chaos of India.

Fast-forward two years, I’m 25 years old and living in Toronto working as a digital media strategist. I was thriving in the industry, experiencing significant financial and social fulfillment. However, I felt incomplete which pushed me into an existential crisis – quarter-life? Soul-searching? I wanted to get out and embark on a journey again. I came across an opportunity to volunteer with a pop-up hostel in Munich, Germany during Oktoberfest. A last-minute application turned into an unexpected opportunity when the coordinator for the hostel reached out to me. I resigned, bought some travel gear, and booked a one-way ticket heading to Munich – the rest was history.

Well, history to reminisce on when I am old and gray.

There is a charm to working with people from around the world. The different nationalities, cultures, languages, and personalities all tossed into a big punch bowl; a love for travel brought us together. This was my first time being part of an international community of this scale. I learned that language has no barriers, travel has no passport – okay it does – but in a general scheme of things, these individuals didn’t care about where I was from, rather who I am. This is where my love for traveling was fostered.

Initially, my trip was intended to last 4 months. My friends from the hostel challenged me to take a leap of faith and push beyond my comfort zone. As a result, I sold everything back home and hit the road for 18 months. Meeting people every day and being part of their story, it had more meaning than any materialistic satisfaction I have ever had. The endless adrenaline one receives from traveling, an experiential high, persuaded me to continue.

My journey truly humbled me to the extent that I was able to recognize a deeper sense of myself. I started saving every penny, traveling by any means, sleeping in conditions I never imagined, and picking up jobs with tasks I would normally be reluctant to do, all with a smile on my face. In addition, visiting different countries, meeting travelers & locals, and hearing unique stories made me appreciate the privilege of living in Canada.

I took a leap into the unknown, not knowing what awaited me; I came back a different person. A person who sincerely appreciates the smaller details, realizes that money is not everything, and at last, has a deeper understanding that true love and friendships know no border or language.

Dear Kobe…

Game Face via standard.co.uk; Getty Images

This was not how your story was supposed to end. This was not how you were supposed to go out. You were supposed to be immortal! I still can’t believe you are no longer with us. I am still waiting for someone to make a post saying that it was a joke. However, I must now accept the fact that the invincible Black Mamba was defeated by death when nothing else could stop him.

Kobe Bean Bryant was a symbol, a hero! Not because of the tremendous skills you demonstrated on the basketball court, but for the person you were! Not flawless by any means, but your pursuit of perfection and the sacrifices you made during that journey that made you a legend. You were known for being a killer on the court. It didn’t matter who you faced – from MJ to LeBron – nobody could intimidate you; always prepared for the competition. During the season and off-season, you put in work, day in and day out and that’s what made you special – never satisfied! Always hungry to learn more, to improve more, to become better each day; your dedication and passion for the sport of basketball were unreal. One of my favourite stories of you is when during a game against Michael Jordan, you asked MJ about his footwork for his infamous fadeaway. Even in a game, you wanted to learn, wanted to be better.

The Student Becomes The Teacher via 24/7 Sports; Getty Images

I was never a fan of you, Kobe, or the Lakers. Hell, I hated you man! Every season, you destroyed my teams. Whether the Chicago Bulls or Toronto Raptors (Canada’s Team), you were relentless! But you were definitely one of my favourite players. An athlete I respected the most in basketball, nay, sports. Like many hoopers, I was inspired by your work ethic, your smooth game, your perfect imperfections, and imperfect perfections, and yes, the “Mamba Mentality!” Yes, that’s it, the Mamba Mentality that made you a force to be reckoned with and one of my favourite players. Your “Mamba” persona elevated the game and the mindset of winning. Everyone knew when the Mamba came out, it’s game over. I idolized you in such a manner that I started imitating your moves. From the fadeaways to jersey biting, but of course to compare my skills to yours, that’s disrespectful for the work I avoided, and the work you put in.

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Outside of basketball, you represented something else as well. A husband, father, friend, philanthropist and mentor, but for me, you were what success looked like; what the love for the journey meant. “Kobe clutch,” a term often used by my friends and I to represent closing out (winning) a specific goal or circumstances. Whether it was handing in the essay right on time at the deadline or getting a cute girl’s number – clutch, Kobe clutch!

Bryant Family via heavy.com; Getty Images

Your death shines a light on what kind of person you were and how many were inspired by the great Kobe. From current NBA players to athletes of different sports, we all mourned your loss. Even individuals who aren’t involved in sports mourned the loss of one of basketball’s beloved figures. All the interviews I have watched post your passing and everything else people from all around the world are doing to honour you, it goes to show what Kobe Bryant meant to the game of basketball and as an icon to the world. Your death also put life into perspective for us. That it really is short, and to enjoy it without hate and with all the love.

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Jimmy Kimmel worded it perfectly when he described your death; “The last person you would imagine something like this would happen… a hero in a way like Superman.” Unbelievable because everyone put you on a pedestal, a God, who was invincible to anything. This was the man who came back to play despite dislocated fingers and sprained ankles. This was the man who walked to the free-throw line to hit two free throws using his sheer will after have diagnosed with an Achilles rupture. He cannot die!

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I, like others, grew up watching you, a fixture on the TV! You were the reason our generation picked up a basketball, learned to love it and found the drive to play the beautiful sport. You were the reason we kept the flame of our passions and worked relentlessly to make our dreams a reality. Although You have left us, you will continue to live through every one of us. Every one of the young NBA players, and athletes in general, who have inherited your will – The Mamba Mentality. Every one that yells “Kobe” when they throw something in the bin. Everyone that puts in the extra effort, day in and day out, to chase their dreams.

Clutch Points’ words put me at peace with your death – “Today is the first time we realized… Kobe was a person, just like us. “

ClutchPoints; Facebook

Rest In Peace Kobe Bean Bryant AKA The Black Mamba !

*RIP to Gianna Bryant (Mambacita), John Altobelli, Keri Altobelli, Alyssa Altobelli, Sarah Chester, Payton Chester, and Ara Zobayan. We lost some special individuals who had a lot to give to this world as well.

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Australia (Part 1) – Is it really expensive?

Is it really expensive? – Photo by rawpixel.com from Pexels

The answer to that question is a flat YES! Okay end of blog – BYE

In all seriousness, yes visiting Australia is an expensive feat and you can easily see the money slip through your wallets, simply because there is so much to see, do and eat. In regards to if Australia is [more] expensive – I don’t think so to be honest, but hear me out.

Minimum Wage

More Money? Better Freedom! – Rottnest Island

While I was planning to visit Australia, one of the key terms I kept hearing was “expensive;” everyone I talked to said it is an expensive country to visit. But after visiting the country I thought everything was fairly priced. You have to understand, the prices were created with the good ol’ Aussies in mind, and in that regards the prices were fair. This is one of the most well-payed countries in the world, with the minimum wage starting at around $20/hour; the prices make sense. I thought $15/hour in Alberta, Canada was awesome, but the entire country just beat Canada (one of the better-paying countries) in the minimum wage. So naturally, the cost of living is going to be expensive. Even then, comparing it to Canada, for the most part, it was similar or maybe a dollar or two more.

For example, a meal in a middle-class restaurant will cost you between $14 to $20, depending on what you get. You go to similar restaurants in Canada, it is about the same as well but add in the tax and tips, it is sometimes more than what you will end up paying in Australia. Of course, it is different from cities to cities and states/provinces to states/provinces. But having visited most of the major cities in Canada and Australia, and having lived in Toronto for a year, I can say that the prices are similar in Australia.

Comparison – Sydney, Toronto & Melbourne

Sydney Opera House

To put things into perspective, I used the website www.numbeo.com to compare prices between Sydney and Toronto, two of the most expensive cities in the world. After the comparison, the results were that Sydney was slightly more expensive than Toronto! However, the minimum wage in Toronto is $14/hour and minimum wage in Sydney is $20 per hour, and the Australian dollar is only 5 cents weaker compared to the Canadian dollar. If I was comparing Melbourne instead of Sydney, it is much cheaper than Toronto, and Melbourne charts top 5 cities for quality of life every year, and it is one of the expensive cities in Australia.

Talking to some friends in Australia, I realized that during my time being employed, I was getting paid far less compared to the Aussies for a similar role. Even as a senior analyst at a marketing firm in Edmonton, I was making less or was on par compared to some of the ‘low paying’ jobs in Australia.

Parting Thoughts

Main Beach, Byron Bay

Although I hope, as a nation Canada increases its minimum wage and follow its cousin, Canada is one of the best places to live in the world. The comparison between the two countries was simply because of my residence in Canada and due to having lived in one of the most expensive cities (Toronto) in the country and the world. The whole point of this article is to simply say that Australia is not as expensive as people make it out to be. It is on par with visiting any developed countries. Hostels, food, and adventures all have similar price tags.

EXCEPT for McDonald’s! McDonald’s is expensive in Australia, and I can’t wrap my head around it! 😀

Curious Kanga! – Perth, Australia

Empower U – Curiosity Led Me Here!

Forever Starts Today – Photo by Oleksandr Pidvalnyi from Pexels

Empower U is a personality development and life coaching program, put on by Brent Williams and his team from Tomorrow’s Youth primarily in Sydney, Australia. The program is designed for young people ideally between the age of 15 – 25, however, there is no set restriction (or else, I wouldn’t have been able to attend).

The Back Story:

Somersby Falls, NSW – My Friend & I – Photo By April Bright

I first heard about this program from a fellow traveler and one of my friend from Oktoberfest. Being a participant herself and one of the primary volunteers for the program, she was raving about the program; which naturally instilled curiosity in me. Having had planned to visit Australia, I tried to get in as a volunteer for the camp (Empower U x 10), but being not experienced and having limited knowledge of the program, Brent invited me to try one of the event first before I committed.

I arrived to my friend’s house in Melbourne on January 26 (Happy Australia Day), and being a super energetic and excited person, she couldn’t wait to reveal my welcome gift. She had planned an epic road trip for my time in Australia and signed me up for the ‘Empower U’ program in February; she used her credits to get me to come to the event!

Empower U:

Photo by rawpixel.com from Pexels

Although I was curious about the program, I was skeptical about the event as well. Being freshly 26 (January babies are the best), I thought to myself, how much more can I learn from a program designed for individuals younger than I. But being an open-minded individual, and out of love for my friend and her effort, I decided to give it a chance. I was thinking about skipping parts of the event, especially after she told me how long the event goes – The program lasts the whole weekend starting from 8am – 9:30pm; ain’t nobody got time for that!

Day 1

Road Trip! – Photo by Kaique Rocha from Pexels

After driving for 7 hours from a Suburb in Victoria, we finally arrived at the location a little late to the event.

Brent, the founder and speaker, had high energy and was convincing. But there were 3 reasons it was a rough start:

1, During our drive to the event, my friend mentioned that I was the oldest participant for the Sydney program.

2, As Brent kicked off the event, he mentioned that this program is designed more so for young people from the age of 15 – 25, and I just turned 26….

3, Literally all the participants were babies, okay, teens and young adults.

Apart from my slight ego, and seeing a mix of overly excited kids (revisits) and the gloomy “why am I here” kids, I started planning my escape plans. Exit over there, breaks, best excuses etc.

*Cue Mission Impossible Theme Music – Time To Escape! – Photo by Alexander Isreb from Pexels

Anyway, by the end of the night, Brent was able to get more of the participants ready for the weekend and excited for what is to come. As for me, I decided to stay the course because, well, curiosity; and also not to be rude and disrespectful to my friend and Brent – Canadians are not rude people :D.

Day 2 & 3

Growth – New Day, New Me! – Photo by Rakicevic Nenad from Pexels

By no means, should I be condensing what happened during those days under one heading. But due to the design of the event, and the integrity of not giving away too much, I will try to keep it as short and exciting as possible.

Brent used his experience, knowledge, and stories to bring life to the event. He covered topics such as emotional intelligence, money and finance, breaking through barriers, goal setting, communication skills, and family and relationships. With a lot of dancing, team building games and exercises, the room was filled with energy for the entire duration of the event. I truly appreciated the humility of Brent, to see how a successful individual is willingly sharing his secrets and recipes of success. Add in his energy, style of presentation, and the design of the program, no one could have been bored. He also made the event slightly more competitive by separating us into teams and giving out Brent bucks for the team that participated the most – GO CHICKENS!

Squad Goals – Photo by Engin Akyurt from Pexels

Towards the end of day 3, one could see the difference in the room. The super energetic individuals maintained their energy and passion. But the skeptical, gloomy individuals finally showed some life. Wonderful to see how these youngsters truly absorbed the program and went through a complete 360 change. Barely anyone failed to participate and I could sense the boost in confidence in many kids.

The message Brent professed, the lessons he taught, and the experience he shared acted as stepping stones for the participants to gain the confidence.

Leap Of Faith – New You! Photo by erdinç ersoy from Pexels

Personal Reflection:

Personal Reflection

As the oldest participant, an international and an individual with some life experience, I approached this event with curiosity and skepticism. Not to say I didn’t gain anything from the event, but it was more so of a reflective journey for me rather than a transformational one compared to lot of the participants. During certain key processes, while these young ones transformed, I reflected. I reflected on what I should have done, could have done, who I should have been, relationships, family and friends. It is not late for me, but since I had already made peace with my past mistakes and regrets, the reflection helped find an ultimate closure and set myself up for future goals and success. I did wish I was part of this program at a younger age, so I could have shared similar experience with the other participants.

This program also helped me truly appreciate and be grateful for what I have. Sounds cheesy, but after hearing the stories and experiences of the other participants and what they have gone through at a young age, I have been lucky. Canadian born in UAE, the opportunities, the education and the supportive family and friends, the amazing people I have met, I couldn’t possibly be any ungrateful. I have always been blessed to have been surrounded by the best people, even with the minor setbacks and regrets (I ‘m to blame).

This program also enabled me to meet some awesome individuals and forge friendships with them.

Canada = All Smiles 🙂 Photo by Andre Furtado from Pexels

The Future Is Bright

Future Is Bright – Photo by Lukas from Pexels

As mentioned earlier, the program was more of a reflective journey for me. However, it was an honour, and a humbling experience, to see the journey of the other participants and see their transformation. I am truly happy for each one and hope for the best for you all. The future is bright – Australia is in great hands!

I truly hope this event gains more international exposure, and Brent continues his work with young individuals from other parts of the world. To learn more about the program, click here: https://tomorrowsyouth.com.au/

Keep Smiling and Pushing Forward! 🙂

**I haven’t added any pictures from the event, because it is a tech-free environment and all the pictures captured by the event photographers were strictly for the event. I also can’t use those images as there were young participants under the age of 18.

Forever Home – I Don’t Have One.

Festanation – Party Squad – Captured By Damjan Pjević

Home, it is really an interesting choice of word to describe a place where one is settled and comfortable. Home can be a physical structure, a city/country or simply a concept of being comfortable around certain people. For me, it is definitely the latter.

Where Is Home?

As a traveler, you are always on the move, so the physical aspect of home is non existent. However, when people ask me where is “home,” I automatically point to Canada and the northern city in Alberta – Edmonton. But for me home is a place where you are among loved ones. Edmonton is home to me simply because of that. My family, my friends, the culture and people I grew up around, they are all in Edmonton. So naturally, home is, and always will be, Edmonton

Downtown Edmonton

However, that is not completely true either. I was born in Ras Al Khaimah, United Arab Emirates to Indian parents, and I spent the first 10 years of my life in this beautiful country. Although I never got Emirati citizenship, I have always considered UAE to be my (second) home because of the people I grew up around and the some of the Arabic culture instilled on me. Imagine the culture shock I had to go through being born to Indian parents in an Arab country and growing up in one of the most diverse countries in the world, Canada.  I mean if this doesn’t prove that I am meant to be always on the road as a “Global” citizen, I don’t know what will :).

Mi Familia – Nikhil & Babitha’s Wedding – Captured By Robin

New Home, Well, Homes….

With increased travels, however, home is starting to change. By all means, I love my people in Edmonton but as more and more people come into my life from all around the world, I don’t feel lonely being away from Edmonton. In fact, I have been blessed to travel to some of the countries these amazing travelers are from, and through their kindness, stay with them and their family and explore their beautiful cities and country.

Sunset – Switzerland – Captured By April Bright/Jess Alchin

Can I Stay Here A Little Longer?

I am starting to feel cozy in all the cities I have been to, despite the language and cultural barriers. I have started making notes of the cities I would love to live (even if it is for a short time), simply because I feel like I am at home. Once I decided to leave the comforts of Edmonton and Canada, my entire perspective on the world changed. Being blessed enough to live in a country like Canada, I was sheltered from everything the world has to offer –  both the negatives and the positives. But when I left the country, after the initial culture shock(s), everything seems normal. Language doesn’t matter, race doesn’t matter, religion doesn’t matter; just a bunch of like-minded individuals trying to connect with each other while trying to explore the best of this world.

London, England

Hey Google, This Doesn’t Look Like Edmonton

Through out my journey, many strangers have welcomed me into their homes. Some I met during travels, and some I met once I arrived at their home. I have had nothing but positive and pleasant experiences. Strangers who turned into family and friends. Strangers who go above and beyond to make me “feel at home,” and show me their beautiful city. In fact, as I write this small piece, I am writing from a friend’s home in Australia, whom I met about five months ago in Germany. Think about how crazy that is! Canadian meets an Australian in Germany and end up in Austrailia. Next, I am heading to a different city in Austrailia to meet up and stay with another friend I met at the same event.

Perth, Australia – Captured By Dan Willis

I encourage everyone to travel and truly embrace the global community. It is absolutely a wonderful experience!

Catch you soon!

Jasper, Alberta – Captured By Manik Bahl/Bibin Joseph